It is the national day of grandparent today. I have not the experience to be a grandmother yet but I would like to share my experience about grandparents of gifted children and their important roles with you. I have a little friend, who is 5 years old. He has a fantastic imagination and as soon as he talks with you, you notice his great language skill. I believe that he is a gifted child because he has so many behaviors that point to this fact. The only problem is that his parents are not willing to accept it. “ Our child should grow up as a normal child. We do not want to take his childhood by pushing him into the trouble of being a gifted child“ his parent said to me once. One day I was talking to his grandparents and tried to explain to them the importance of supporting the emotional needs and to develop his talents intentionally. I tried to explain to them the importance of this fact being a gifed child is nothing against having a normal life, when we develop our understanding for this kind of children. His grandmother asked me for a good book about this topic and I gave her one. She took the book very carefully and whispered to me: „I am going to read this book and try my best to help and support my grandchild. I want to see him as happy as possible.“ She smiled so nice and I could feel her love and passion for her grandchild.
A Grandparents heart is full of love to grandchildren. I remember as my grandparent told me stories, baked yummy cookies and tried to make me happy and smile and today I see some of my clients, who are sent to my center by a recommudation from grandarents. It is time to appreciate their loves and take more time to learn from their experience. Happy National Grandparents Day!
Author(s): James T. Webb, Ph.D., ABPP-Cl, Janet L. Gore, M.A., M.Ed., Frances A. Karnes, Ph.D., Stephen McDaniel, J.D., A.E.P., E.P.L.S.
Multi-Award Winner! Grandparents have a very special role in the lives of their gifted grandchildren. In fact, because of the breadth of their life experiences, grandparents may realize that a child is gifted even before the parents do! This book helps grandparents know for sure and describes many ways that they can support their own children in the parenting of these bright, talented youngsters. Gifted children need special emotional and intellectual sustenance, and grandparents can offer perspectives and resources that their own children may not have. Parents may wish to buy this book as a gift for grandparents.
Happy reading! 🙂
One day a mother came in my center and she was looking for consulting for her 3years old daughter. She said that her daughter could read books, writes in English and German and that she was very interested to learn more about everything but especially about planets, space and gallaxy.
I still wanted to experience herself, that she can read. From the shelf I gave her a randomly chosen book and she began to read fluently. I did not trust my eyes anymore. That little girl looked like other children of her age but her ability made a huge difference. Her mother said that she did not feel well in kindergarten and was very lonely and bored.
I asked the little girl, which planet is your favorite? She looked in my eyes with her bright eyes and answered: “ Saturn“. I tried to to look cool and appealing and asked her again: “ oh because of ringy, bingy around it?“ She threw a serious look at me and said : „This is not a ringy BINGY! It is all about compressed gases by ….“ and she told me about the physical and scientific facts about Saturn. I was just speechless.
That was one of several talented children, we help daily in Bavarian Center for Gifted and Talented Children but not all are the same and equal.
Gifted children like other children have different profiles, different problems and different needs.
Of course not all of them are able to write or read early but they have many or all of the following characteristics that are usually associated with giftedness in the early years. Young children who are potentially gifted often:
- have a high energy level
- have a wide range of interests
- Have a great memory
- advanced vocabulary
- Very creative
- Prefer older companions or adults
- Have a great sense of humor
- Highly sensitive
Fact is that all these characteristics make raising a gifted child very difficult or better to say challenging for parents. These kids need a diverse program to better promote their needs and their talents. It is very important that the interests of the child are taken into account. High interest provides greater motivation and concentration and better results, otherwise they often react bored, stubborn and even angry, if there is no interest for the topic or due to repetition. As a parent of these children a lot of patience, understanding, calmness and positive thinking is a necessity.
To better understand these children it is very important for parents, educators and teachers to inform themselves about the topic.